Successful psychotherapy as the unsuccessful result, because, according to the various combinations of the elements mentioned. Put another way, every therapist nor any method are compatible with any patient or pathology, or vice versa. Gerald Weissmann, MD has many thoughts on the issue. Each psychotherapy is a particular trip and intranferible of patient and therapist. And only when all the factors involved are sufficiently favorable experience will mutually positive and rewarding. Of course, when certain indispensable minimums are not met can speak bad psychotherapists, as well as bad patients. Why some therapies are disastrous or endless, and some patients continually travel therapist’s therapist.

When this happens last, the cause is often found in the patient. Indeed, experience shows that many people do not feel deeply motivated to heal, or feel forced to do so simply by superficial pain or feelings of guilt, or third parties; or they are too scary to take advantage of any help. Some of it not even deemed worthy of being happy! For this reason, such as smokers who pretend not to leave his habit – when the truth is that they secretly don’t want-, those patients simulate strive to change but doing everything necessary (unconsciously) to sabotage or usually break their therapies (e.g., justifying the lack of time or money, tiredness, lack of results, the anger with the therapist, the) infatuation of her therapist, etc.). And it is that, nobody obviously healthy if you don’t want to do it. Strictly speaking, and against the extended social myth, psychotherapy does not curaa nobody, but it helps the subject to heal by itself.

The therapist is not a magician.In the same way that the doctor does not give the health, but only facilitates it; or parents do not teach to walk the child, but only offer encouragement and aid so that is continually try to move the legs, thus also therapist offers relief, affection, guide, tools to your patient but this can only, if you want, take the helping hand and choose to grow. The engine of change lies always in itself, and nowhere else. Without this engine, little is possible. A psychotherapeutic relationship is, however, one of the most rich, deep, beautiful and healing human links that can occur. Psychotherapy is art – not science – listen, trust, respect, express themselves, understand, discover, share affection and knowledge. It is, in ultimately a form of mutual love. Why the good psychotherapist, as the good father, the good doctor or the good teacher, should be a humanist loaded with respect and love towards their patients, their profession and life.